Quarter-Life Crisis

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Is this a real thing?  I found a wikipedia page, so it must be.  I've noticed others talking about this recently as well...which makes sense since most of us bloggers are twenty-somethings either getting married, navigating single life, starting new jobs, moving...you know, all that good stuff.

I think it's safe to say I have officially entered my quarter-life crisis.  Things have just been...different...since I came back from my trip home last month.  I literally have no idea what I am doing.  I am boring.  I hate my job.  I hate where I live.  I don't have any friends here, I don't go anywhere, I don't have any co-worker friends, I miss my family, I miss my friends, I miss excitement.

I need to be challenged and pushed and to feel excited about things again.  I thought planning a wedding would distract me from hating living here...but it did the opposite.  It stressed me out even more and made me realize how much easier and more enjoyable planning a wedding at home would be.

I just turned 26 and what do I have to show for the past 26 years?  Ross and I have no money in savings, don't really own anything, hate our jobs and are just stuck.  And that is the worst feeling...being stuck.  You can't move without a job...but you can't get a job very easily living somewhere else.  And then how do you afford to move somewhere that is over twice as expensive as the place you live now?  How do you tell people you 'failed' here and want out?

After a lot of the stuff in the news lately, my homesick-ness has intensified like you wouldn't believe.  Life is so damn short so why the hell am I spending even a fraction of mine somewhere that makes me unhappy?  People you love could be gone tomorrow but instead of spending time with them I am no where near them and that really sucks.  I've done the distance for three years and I am just over it.  I don't want it anymore.  I want my parents just 45 minute drive away and my friends just a T ride or few blocks away.  I am sick of the planes and the airfare and the missing out.  I am sick of seeing everyone together on facebook and instagram and just staring at the pictures because I can't be there too.      

So that's it...my whiny rant.  If you hate me a little now or want to slap me, I totally understand.  Whiners can be pretty annoying, I know.

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  1. Quarter-life crisis is DEFINITELY a thing. I had mine back in grad school. I had a job in Charleston and was planning on marrying a boy I had dated for 5 years. I woke up one morning and said to myself, "Nope, not happening!" I broke up with him the next day and called our HR dept and begged for my job back in Greenville.

    So girl, I hear ya. It will absolutely work out for you! I'm here to vent anytime (over several adult beverages of course)! <3 you!

  2. MOVE, girlfriend! I'm all about the 'life is too short' mentality. I totally get where you're coming from hating where you are. It's tough! You don't want to look back with regrets. And getting a job while now living in a city is tough, but not impossible. I got my current job AND my last one over the phone!

  3. I completely understand where you are coming from! I have had more than a few breakdowns when it comes to "where is my life going?" and "I saw myself doing so much more with my life." In the end, life is too short to waste being unhappy for even a minute. You are at the prime age to pick up and start a new career, move to a new town, or do whatever else you need to do in order to make you happy. I know it is much easier said than done. I question myself at least once a week about my job and how this is not the career path that I want to take. Take a deep breath, poor a glass of wine, and figure out who you want to be!

  4. I'm so sorry! I can only imagine what it's like being that far away from family. Mine is only two hours away and sometimes I feel like that's a huge hurdle.

    Seriously though, we need to get together soon. I think you'd enjoy our Wine Wednesday bunch. We've got to find some stuff around here that doesn't make you want to shoot your own foot off.

  5. come back to boston! it missses you :)

  6. Lady, I've been there. It's hard and life is complicated and so is growing up. Things that have helped me when I'm feeling down and out have been focusing on positive things that I can control - making sure that I'm getting good sleep, eating healthy, exercising regularly, and surrounding myself with positivity where I can. It's hard, and takes work, but when those things are in line, it tends to flow into other areas and helps me figure the rest of the mess out, too. The mess being my life, of course :)

    Sending you good vibes.

    Leaner By The Lake

  7. Oh my goodness. I feel ya! So sorry you are going through this. I quit my job after feeling so under-appreciated and under-utilized...and under-paid. ^_^ Although it is much harder making ends meet we are all so much happier for it.

    And in my never ending pursuit of growth...I have to say: Save up. Kill your cable and any other bills you can and save save save. Make a goal to change something by next summer and do it! Create some happiness and let go of anything that doesn't help you to feel good about yourself!